RAWBangkok

I’ve got a regular girl again.

After about 30 years of dating, marriage and whoring I think I may have finally figured out the relationship thing.

My girl is not a stunning beauty, but she’s pretty, or at least very cute.  She’s not as slender as my ‘ideal’ girl, but no one would ever call her fat.  She’s 29 years old, but looks a bit younger, with clear skin, a charming smile and nice eyes.  Her English is about on par with my Thai, so we change back and forth between the two languages and teach each other new words.

I really enjoy the sex!  She’s a very loving and cuddly girl who likes to have long sessions of caressing, licking, kissing, cuddling and deep penetration.  She’s sensitive, but not overly so.  She loves to have her nipples sucked, and she can come either with my tongue on her clit or my cock inside her.  After she comes, her body is charged with electricity for about five minutes.  A lick, a touch or even just my warm breath on her skin causes her to shudder and her muscles to twitch.

I have to say, it’s nice to have frequent sex with a girl who doesn’t appear to be acting, and seems to enjoy it just as much as I do.

Thai girls often drive their western boyfriends crazy with calls and SMS messages, ringing and messaging so often that the guy starts to feel smothered.  My girl touches base with me every day.  Most days she calls me between 4 and 6 p.m. just to say hello.  We chat for between 2 and 5 minutes before saying goodbye.

Most nights I get a goodnight message from her whenever she lays down to sleep.  If I send her a message she usually gives me a short but immediate response to let me know she appreciates the attention.

We don’t live together — her place is out past Onnut station — and I normally only see her about twice a week.  Most of the time we don’t do much except hang out at my place.  We watch DVDs or TV, listen to music, or eat dinner before crawling into bed and all over each other.  Occasionally, however, we have a regular date.  For example, two weeks ago we went to the movies, and — although I couldn’ t make it — yesterday she called and invited me to dinner at a restaurant in Ekkamai with her and some of her friends.

Unlike my ex-wife and most other girls I’ve ever dated, she accepts me just as I am and never asks me to change anything.  She never complains that I’m too fat, or scolds me if I eat a bag of potato chips.  She doesn’t nag me about cleaning my room or smack me if she thinks I’m looking at another woman.  Even though we’ve been spending time together for eleven months, she acts as though I’m perfect just the way I am.

Her personal habits are great.  Like all Thai girls she is impeccably groomed.  She has no tattoos.  She doesn’t smoke or take drugs.  She hasn’t had a baby, and as far as I can tell she doesn’t have a Thai boyfriend hiding out somewhere.  She seems to be a genuinely nice girl.

She studies English from time to time, although she’s not the most dedicated student in the world.  Sometimes when she comes to my house she brings her English text book and I help her with her studies.

I’ve never seen her sleep more than 9 or 10 hours straight, and she typically only sleeps between 6 and 8 hours (while her Thai sisters across the Land of Smiles are famous for snoozing 12 hours a day if given the opportunity).  She always gets up and has an active day.

All in all, it would be hard to be any happier with the time I spend with her.

And one of the keys to my happiness with this relationship is that we don’t spend all our time together.  I see her, as I said, perhaps twice a week.  She touches base via the mobile once or twice a day.  And that’s it!

No clinging or complaining.  No need to sneak around behind her back and lie to her.  I’m free to enjoy my life in Bangkok for all that it is.

I saw her on Friday night.  I was at Soi Cowboy and pretty drunk.  I sent her an SMS and she called me back.  Soon, she arrived at Cowboy and found me.  She didn’t complain because I was trashed, just took my hand, smiled, and guided me to a cab.  We went back to my place and fucked like rabbits.

I had a day off on Monday this week, so Sunday night I thought it might be nice to have her come over for another night of passion.  I sent her an SMS saying that I’d be happy to see her either Sunday night or Wednesday.  I got a brief reply — almost terse — in return saying that she couldn’t see me Sunday.

I guessed from the brief reply and no phone call that she had a customer Sunday night, for she is — of course — a go go dancer.

And that’s the beauty of Thailand.

This girl sees me regularly, and treats me better than any girlfriend or wife I’ve ever had.  We have fun together.  But she’s not my girlfriend; she’s just doing her job.

When she comes to my room she usually stays till about two in the afternoon, never complaining or hurrying out the door.

We have an arrangement that works for me, and she seems to be pretty happy with it as well.  If I want to see her on a specific night, I send her a message inviting her to come to my place after work.  If she doesn’t get barfined by a customer, she calls me when  the go go bar closes, and she shows up around 3 a.m.  We usually have sex about three times before she dresses to go home in mid-afternoon, and occasionally we have lunch together before she does.  When she goes home I put 2,000 baht in her hand for the time we spent together.

If she can’t make it, she lets me know.

If I want to guarantee that I can see her on a night, then I can barfine her early and take her away from the go go.  She’ll still stay till mid-afternoon, but because I pulled her out of her worknight, I pay her 3,000 baht instead of the two grand I give her for after-work visits.

So typically, for about 4,000 baht (US $130?) a week, I get two long-time sessions — about 24 hours of attention — and I can have sex as many times as I can manage, though I average about 3 per visit.

When she has a day off (most go go dancers get two a month) she usually calls me and invites me out.  When this happens, I pay the costs of the ‘date’, but I don’t tip her for her time if she goes home at the end of the night.  It’s a nice ‘bonus’ for me — real companionship with no tip expected or required.

Sometimes she asks to see me in the afternoon before she goes to work… maybe to have dinner or maybe to study English.  Again, this is just because we enjoy spending time together… I don’t have to pay for her time when she invites me.  There’s never any free sex, but we do hang out as friends.

There’s no question of “love” in the relationship.  I am a customer and she is providing me with companionship and sex.  Neither of us is confused about any of that.  She’s not gonna be my girlfriend or my wife.  We both know that.

My point is that Thai hookers are not like any other hookers I’ve ever met before.

There are thousands of girls here who will gladly play at being your ‘girlfriend’ for an hour, a week or a year as long as you are willing to pay the freight.  It can’t buy you love, but your money can — if it’s what you want — buy you a relationship with an attractive, charming and sexy girl who will pamper you and treat you the way you always wished your girlfriend would.

I enjoy a great relationship with a fun girl.  It’s an arrangement that makes me happier than any wife or girlfriend I’ve ever had before.

The girlfriend experience without the girlfriend.